- A New Jersey senior is suing her parents for support and college tuition, claiming they kicked her out of the house.
- Rachel Canning’s parents though say she left their home last year of her own accord, not wanting to follow their rules, which included keeping a curfew, doing some chores and reconsidering a boyfriend relationship they disagreed with.
- As a result they stopped paying her private school tuition and took away the car they paid for while she has continued to live with a friend’s family.
- A New Jersey judge heard the case Tuesday and ruled against forcing Canning’s parents to pay weekly child support and put off the decision regarding college tuition for a hearing next month.
- “… what do you do when a child says ‘I don’t want your rules but I want everything under the sun and you to pay for it?’”
A judge in Morristown Tuesday ruled against immediately forcing Rachel Canning’s parents — her father a retired police chief — to pay her $650 weekly child support and pay for her remaining year of high school tuition, as she requested in a lawsuit filed last week. Judge Peter Bogaard scheduled a hearing for next month to decide whether to require her parents to pay for Canning’s college tuition.
“Do we want to establish a precedent where parents live in basic fear of establishing rules of the house?” Bogaard asked.
The New Jersey Star Ledger reported Bogaard’s caution to legal counsel in his initial ruling against an emergency order. It “would represent essentially a new law or a new way of interpreting an existing law,” he said. “A kid could move out and then sue for an XBox, an iPhone or a 60-inch television.”
Even though the parent were having some problems of their own.
Court documents show frequent causes of parent-teenage tension — boyfriends and alcohol — taken to an extreme. In court filings, there are accusations and denials, but one thing is clear: the girl, who has been labeled as “spoiled,”left home Oct. 30, two days before she turned 18 after a tumultuous stretch during which her parents separated and reconciled and the teen began getting into uncharacteristic trouble at school.
She said her parents are abusive, contributed to an eating disorder she developed and pushed her to get a basketball scholarship. They say they were supportive, helped her through the eating disorder and paid for her to go to a private school where she would not get as much playing time in basketball as she would have at a public school.
They also say she lied in her court filing and to child welfare workers who are involved in the case.
In court filings, Canning’s parents, retired Lincoln Park police Chief Sean Canning and his wife Elizabeth, said their daughter voluntarily left home because she didn’t want to abide by reasonable household rules, such as being respectful, keeping a curfew, doing a few chores and ending a relationship with a boyfriend her parents say is a bad influence. They say that shortly before she turned 18, she told her parents that she would be an adult and could do whatever she wanted.
“Mr. and Mrs. Canning did not tell Rachel to move out; rather they advised her that she is welcome home so long as she abides by their rules under their roof, which is completely reasonable,” the parents’ attorney Laurie Rush-Masuret wrote the court, according to the newspaper. “However, Rachel decided that she does not want to live within her parents’ sphere of influence and voluntarily moved out, essentially emancipating herself. Obviously, she cannot decide she will no longer live within her parents’ sphere of influence and simultaneously seek payment from them for support.”
So what are your thought on the entitled generation of kids? Are we coddling our children to much? Why is it that the new system believes that everyone should be winners? In my youth we had to work for it. You didn’t win anything unless you at least came in third.. there was no getting anything just for trying it out.
I am interested in your thoughts.